What are you doing this week end? The two boys travel and I miss them so much! I find this to be the hardest part of divorce – the all or nothing of it. When I’m solo with them, I love it even if it’s full; and when they leave, I feel sullen, especially on the first day. I’m working on the transitions and I hope it’s like a muscle that will get stronger. (Any advice from other parents?) In the meantime! Hope you have a good one – happy 4th of July and Eid Mubarak for those celebrating Eid-ul-Adha – and here are some links around the web…
We just made our beds with this soft and creamy bedding — my favorite thing is to shave my legs and climb into clean sheets with a book.
“I tried to eliminate chatter from my life. it went wrong.” (vice, via Kottke)
How cool is this Barcelona apartment with a corduroy couch?
The Supreme Court killed affirmative action. Mediocre whites can rest easy. “If you want to see a white liberal drop the pretense that he cares about systemic racism and injustice, just tell him his kid didn’t get into the ‘elite’ school he was hoping for. …I’ve had white people I could standardize-test in a fucking coma tell me I got into school just because of affirmative action… I think any successful black person in this country , especially one who went to a traditionally elite college, knows that feeling. I’m a well-respected legal columnist and best-selling author, and I can’t go a week without some idiot who paid eight dollars for Twitter suggesting that I haven’t “earned” my place at Harvard Law School. , an institution I graduated 20 years ago. It is exasperating — both in the sense that it makes me violently angry and interrupts the normal functioning of my brain. If you haven’t walked a mile in my shoes…or the shoes of any other black person who has had the temerity to be excellent in black, you really don’t know what it’s like to have white people who have the intellectual firepower of a wet cigarette challenges your credentials. (The nation)
Kids can handle more that we often give them.
We melted the broccoli this week and they were delicious.
If you’re looking for a beach read, Jenny says it’s the summer book.
I fell in love with this summer perfume.
What’s your favorite “game night” game? said about you.
Also, two comments from readers:
Said Annie B. on how to comfort a friend“When I talk to a friend who is in pain, I try to focus on his pain. I didn’t grow up in a very expressive family, so I understand the urge to walk away from it with positivity. Yet time and time again I have found that centering the pain, asking clarifying questions, and reflecting in a way that magnifies the situation, gives people the space to open up without feeling judged. It won’t make them feel any worse talking about what’s hurting them – they’re already hurting and thinking about it. At the end of the day, people have so many emotions about their emotions. We are often embarrassed to have a hard time; we are so ashamed to experience normal responses to difficult situations. It breaks my heart to hear my friends talk about themselves like that, so I do my best to release them, even for a little while, by saying, “You know what, this is terrible. is so hard and I’m devastated for you, I’d be so hurt too. Giving someone permission to feel what they feel is a powerful thing, and it’s an important part of friendship. It just takes practice.
Said Sandy on what teen scenes do you like?“I bet a lot of us brunette girls received indirect, feedback therapy from Dr. Ryan in I have never. This scene and psychologist Susan David’s line “Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life” made me want to go to therapy.
(Flower photo by Farmer’s flowers.)
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